Getting to Know Your G-Spot
The A, B, C’s of the G-Spot
According to the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, roughly 18% of vulva owners can orgasm through internal penetration alone. So – if you have a vulva and you haven’t experienced an internal or G-Spot orgasm, you are in the majority.
Oftentimes we can go through adulthood believing that we are unable to have a G-spot orgasm through penetration. People with vulvas might start to feel that their body is the problem. However, that is not the case! G-Spot orgasms may be elusive for many, but they are not impossible.
Not all women have a G-spot or an orgasm from stimulating it. Some women report having intense G-spot orgasms while others only feel mild pleasure. If you have never had a G-spot orgasm before, this guide will help you find it and enjoy all of its benefits.
What Is The G-Spot?
The G-spot is a small, spongy area located about one to two inches inside the vagina on the front wall. When stimulated, can lead to intense orgasms.
The G-spot is named after German gynecologist Ernst Grafenberg, who first described it in 1950. The popular term was coined by sex researcher Beverly Whipple and her colleague Barry Komisaruk in 1982.
The G-spot is not a button or a switch; it’s a complex area that responds differently depending on the person. Some women find stimulation of their G-spot extremely pleasurable, while others report little or no sensation at all when theirs is stimulated.
G-Spot Orgasms Are Different From Clitoral Orgasms
The G-spot is an area that can produce stronger orgasms than clitoral orgasms or those produced by vaginal penetration alone. A study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine found that women who had never had an orgasm before were able to have their first through stimulation of the G-spot. However, women who were more experienced had difficulty reaching orgasm through G-spot stimulation alone — they needed clitoral stimulation as well.
The key difference between a clitoral orgasm and a G-spot orgasm is that with a clitoral orgasm you feel intense stimulation around your clit but without any internal stimulation; with a G-spot orgasm you feel intense internal stimulation without external stimulation (or at least not much).
“Why do I struggle to have a G-spot orgasm?”
If we think about the way many vulva owners are taught (or NOT taught) to self-pleasure while growing up, it commonly starts with external clitoral stimulation. We might have discovered it by accident – not intentionally – and upon realizing how amazing it feels when stimulated, we don’t even think about exploring the G-spot, because why try a whole other avenue when the first one works perfectly fine?!
So with that said, perhaps it is a matter of not knowing how to stimulate the G-Spot, because we never really dedicated much time to it in the past.
It’s not for lack of trying completely- those who have penetrative sex have likely experienced G-Spot stimulation, but getting to know the angles and rhythms that your G-spot likes can be a process. Maybe a few hours, maybe a few months with regular practice!
If you’ve heard about the G-spot but aren’t sure what it is — or if you’ve tried stimulating this spot but didn’t experience much response, we encourage you to set some time aside and incorporate a G-spot only session into your pleasure ritual. Get to know what angles and pressures feel most arousing to you. Notice the difference in the size of your G-spot before and after an extended period of arousal. While it takes some training, the payoff is worth it.
How To Stimulate the G-Spot
Every G-spot has its own preferences – everyone is built a little different! Again, it is an experimental process!
Tips:
- Use the “come hither” motion using two or three inserted with the fingertips to press up against the anterior wall. Bending the fingers. Use the “come here” motion repeatedly. You are adding pressure against the G-spot – this is the most common way to stimulate it and increase arousal.
- Press a finger directly against the center of your g-spot, and start tapping rhythmically. No other movement like wiggling or side to side – just tapping. Try slow taps and fast taps to determine what your body likes best.
- Use a helping hand! Whether you bring your partner into the mix, or use a sex toy for G-Spot, a little extra help might make G-spot arousal easier to achieve.
Here are our top recommended sex toy for G-Spot pleasure:
Best G-spot Toy for Beginners – First Time Mini G Purple Vibrator
Slim and compact, this G-spot sex toy has an insertable length of about 4 inches. The tip is curved and subtle, so if you prefer less intense stimulation, this vibrating sex toy is ideal. It is quiet, discreet and travel-friendly. You can take it in the shower too, because it’s splash-proof.
Best Basic Textured G-Spot Vibrator – Vedo Quiver Plus
The Vedo Quiver Plus Rechargeable Vibe is a great entry-level sex toy for G-spot stimulation. It’s not too thick, and it has smooth rippled texture along the shaft for some added sensory enjoyment. The tip is more rounded than the First Time Mini G, with more surface area to rub on the G-spot when it is engorged.
Best Non-Vibrating G-Spot Dildo – Cloud9 Ergo Super Flexi I Teal Green 6″ Dong
If you don’t prefer vibration, try a G-spot dildo. The Cloud9 Super Flexi Dildo is compact in size and the contoured tip is extremely pleasurable. If you DO like vibration, this toyt converts into a vibrator with its hollow base. A vibrating bullet is included, so you can customize your experience. This dildo is also harness-compatible if you will be using a partner to explore your G-Spot, or vice versa.
