Beyond the Basics: Squirting FAQs and Tips

Some people refer to it as a myth; others refer to it at the holy grail of orgasms. While some people with vaginas have never experienced a squirting orgasm before, it is definitely not a myth. Although “holy grail” may be pretty accurate if you have been lucky enough to experience this state of orgasmic bliss!

What is squirting?

Squirting, also known as female ejaculation, is when a vagina-owner’s body releases fluid from the urethra in response to sexual stimuli, like touching or penetration. It often happens during sexual arousal, or near the climax of an orgasm, usually as a result of increased pressure on the area around the Skene’s (Scotch’s) glands located at the back of the vagina near the bladder. The amount of fluid expelled can vary, depending on the individual.

However, squirting is not always the result of a mind-blowing orgasm. You do not necessarily need to reach climax in order to experience female ejaculation. Some people are able to squirt without having an orgasm at all.

Here are the most common FAQs that we get asked about female ejaculation.

1: “Is squirt pee?”  

This has been a long debate. However, according to various medical studies, the answer likely comes down to how much urine is in the bladder at the beginning of sexual arousal.

Female ejaculate contains progesterone, other hormones, and vitamin C which helps protect the eggs from oxidative stress during reproduction. It also contains antioxidants like uric acid, urea, creatinine which suggests that the liquid is created and stored in the bladder.

Female Ejeculate is fluid released by the paraurethral (or female prostate) glands during sexual arousal or orgasm. These glands produce and secrete mucus, which helps to self-lubricate, and prevent urinary tract infections.

2: “Is squirting involuntary?” 

Vulva owners can experience involuntary or voluntary “ejaculatory” orgasms, which are caused by stimulation of certain areas in the genital area, and may lead to fluid expulsion from the urethra. This is usually due to heightened levels of arousal that result in an uncontrollable response similar to what happens when a penis-owner has an ejaculatory orgasm.

3: “Can everyone squirt?” 

It comes down to your body…but the short answer to that is no. Not everyone is able to squirt.

Some people can squirt easily, some infrequently. Some can squirt repeatedly, and some might never experience it. If you have attempted this before with no success, don’t give up! There are a variety of tools and techniques that can get you there. It is all trial and error as well as having patience. Other factors such as hormones, stress level, physical health, and mental well-being can also contribute to your squirt potential.

If you are up for a mission of exploration, try these tips if you want to try and get your body to squirt!

Squirting Tips For Partner Pleasure

1. Help your partner relax and let go of any tension in the pelvic floor muscles by taking deep breaths, contracting the kegels during inhale, and then releasing them on exhale. A great tool for pelvic floor release can be a deeply-curved G-spot toy. We recommend the 8 Inch Glass G-Spot Toy because it has a firm texture, and a double-sided design that helps explore different angles, pressures and textures. The G-Spot Wand can be used as part of a self-care routine for pelvic floor tension by applying pressure to the area around the opening of the urethra. This stimulation helps reduce muscle spasms and improves circulation in that region, which may help alleviate some discomfort associated with this condition.
2. Have your partner focus on the feeling of arousal rather than the “goal” of orgasm, as this can help increase natural lubrication production. Your partner might want to try varying positions throughout stimulation. Experimenting with different techniques such as oral sex, manual stimulation etc., and communicating during sexual activity is all part of the process, too.
3. Use plenty of lube to ensure comfort, and to reduce friction during stimulation. Using lubrication can also help stimulate natural lubrication production as well. The body can have an easier time reaching orgasm or ejaculation when all systems are firing like a well-oiled machine. (Pun intended.)
4. Stimulate around the vulva, clitoris and even around the anus to fully relax the body, and help it ease into a deep zone of pleasure. This can take some time, so keep going as long as it feels good. Some have reported that they can squirt only after continuing to receive penetration after having an orgasm.
5. Pay extra attention to the Gspot. Experiment with different pressures, speeds and movements as this can help increase the intensity of female ejaculation. You can try a variety of techniques, including direct pressure on the G-spot with fingers or a sex toy; a rocking motion from behind using one’s body weight; and gentle thrusting motions.
6. Communicate with your partner(s) and check in regularly about how and where they may want to be touched. Some examples of checking in with your partner include:

“Would you like me to adjust my pressure?”

“Should I switch it up and focus on a different area?”

“What feels better- hard and deep, or shallow and light?”

One example of what NOT to say is, “are you getting close?”

That may be the fastest way to destroy progress, as many vulva owners can attest. Set time aside because helping your partner squirt could be a pleasure-filled marathon.

Squirting Tips For Solo Masturbation 

1. Get to know your body and its needs – understanding how it feels when you’re aroused, what triggers an orgasmic feeling, etc., can help you identify ways in which you may be able to stimulate yourself more effectively.
2. Experiment with different techniques – from clitoral to internal stimulation; try out new positions and find the ones that work best for you.  It is easy to know the fastest way from Point A to Point B, but being intentional about the art of the buildup could be the key to unlocking this ability. You can also use a sex pillow underneath your body to help achieve the right angle.
3. Be generous with lube during masturbation, even if you aren’t using a toy. If you struggle to self-lubricate, try Melt Warming Lube to help kick start arousal with little effort. Stimulating arousal lubes are often overlooked pleasure products, and you don’t even need a partner to enjoy them.
4. Don’t forget self-care – this includes mind and body. Ensure that your body is well taken care of and feeling its most comfortable. Start from the top to bottom! Meditation for mental peace of mind helps release stress that we can hold onto, and that affects how our bodies respond to pleasure. Also, getting enough sleep and drinking plenty of water daily can help your body receive pleasure, and release more naturally because your body is functioning at its personal best.

Most importantly, it’s about the journey, not the destination. Enjoy yourself in whatever way feels right for your body and its needs; don’t forget that squirting may take some time. So explore it with the same curiosity and openness as you would with other uncharted territories in life.

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