Make Anal Sex Pleasurable and Pain-Free

Of all the sex acts available for you to try, anal sex comes with some of the most harmful misconceptions. For Anal August you should be having pain-free anal sex that feels good. The most common misconception is that it’s always painful, and if you want to experiment with it, you just have to put up with it and just go for it, then you just deal with all the pain or injuries that can happen later. But we’re here to let you know that it’s not true that anal sex is supposed to hurt or can be dangerous. When actually like all other sex things, it should never hurt!! You just need to be properly prepared and have the right tools to help. Most folks start too large or aren’t using lubricant when the backdoor doesn’t produce its own lubrication.

Relaxation and Communication

You’ll need to relax your body, and you can’t trick your body into thinking it’s relaxed. You actually have to be relaxed. The person who is receiving penetration should relax, and the person penetrating should go slow. More importantly, communicate with your partner. As soon as something feels uncomfortable or painful, don’t just push through it, tell your partner and adjust something to make it more comfortable.

To Relax Try:

soaking in a hot bath
masturbating
having your partner give you a massage
enjoying some foreplay, such as kissing, erogenous play, or oral sex

Think Positive!

Something that can help make anal sex a pleasurable experience is to change your mindset. Your mind is incredibly powerful. Just like how someone who’s getting their blood drawn tenses their body in expectation of pain when the needle is close, the receiver can tense their body in expectation of painful anal sex. To experience pleasurable anal sex, changing how you think about it can change everything. You need to think of anal sex as something that could potentially be enjoyable. Try watching porn that features anal, or erotica to try and make anal more erotic.

Start Small and Work Your Way Up

When you’re exploring in a couples setting starting off with some analingus or anal massaging before you move on to anal fingering is a great way to warm the backdoor up and help relax your partner.Then you can start experimenting is with smaller items before moving on to any larger toys or a penis. Think of things like fingers, butt plugs, or anal beads. Think of it as trying to teach the muscles and sphincter around your rectum that they can relax when something tries to enter back there. And a reminder, if it begins to hurt, take a break. There’s no reason to rush backdoor exploration, no one (worth knowing) should criticize you for going about anal sex too slowly.

For toys, an anal training set is always helpful because you have different size options in one kit. The Renegade Sliders are a great kit because the tapered shape is easy to insert. Or the Master Series Dark Delights includes curved plugs which can stimulate the prostate directly, or the g-spot indirectly. Anal beads are also a greta option since they gradually get larger and provide different stimulation. The Luxe Be Me 3 is a great option that can also be worn as a plug, or the Naughty Bits Butt Balls are soft and perfect for beginngers. Vibration can help relax the muscles, so the Satisfyer Backdoor Lover Plug Vibrator is a great plug to see if you enjoy vibration.

Lube Is Your Best Friend

Unlike a vagina, that produces its own lubrication, the anus does not. Without enough lubrication, the friction created by dry penetration is painful and can even cause tiny tears in the delicate skin of the anus. So if you’re not using lube or the right kind of lube penetration will likely not feel good at all. Silicone lube is often the best lube for anal because it’s longer lasting than any other type of lube and they typically make thicker formulas that put a nicer cushion for penetration. But remember if you’re using sex toys made of silicone, you’ll need to use water-based lube because silicone lube isn’t compatible with silicone toys. Oil-based lubes and other oil products should be avoided if you’re using condoms because they break down latex. Water-based lube is always a safe bet because it’s compatible with all materials

Numbing Products Aren’t Helpful

Pain is your body’s way of letting you know something’s not quite right. Numbing those pain sensors can prevent you from feeling if there’s a problem. And if something is off, like your angle or position, you could end up doing some damage. Numbing products can make it easy to keep going even when the lube has run dry or your body stiffens up, which means it’s more likely that you’ll hurt yourself. But there are plenty of relaxing products to lubricate you and help that muscle relax. Mojo Clove Oil Anal Relaxing Gel isn’t a lube but a gel you put on before you add your favorite lubricant. The all natural clove oil is a relaxing agent and Allows penetration to be more comfortable without numbing. If you want a lube that’s relaxing and compatible with all materials Mojo Water Based Anal Relaxing Glide is your best bet. If you aren’t using toys, silicone lube lasts the longest and Intimate Earth Ease Silicone Relaxing Glide will help relax your backdoor and stay lubricated the longest without having to reapply.