Anal Foreplay is Necessary

Best Tips For Anal Warmup

When you watch porn that features anal sex you don’t see all the prep work that can go into cleanup and warming up the backdoor. Foreplay is not just important, it’s mandatory for most people when you’re having anal sex. Anal foreplay can make or break how pleasurable butt stuff is. Anal sex isn’t as simple as P in the V penetration. The vagina naturally lubricates itself when you get turned on and the anus does not. The butt is also full of tight muscles that don’t say primed for being penetrated without foreplay. When you want to explore the backdoor you have to prepare for penetration to make it the most pleasurable experience possible. While preparing the anus might sound like a mood-killer, there are ways to make anal foreplay hot, so the rest of the experience is more relaxed and enjoyable, too.

Communication

While communication should be happening before, during, and after you explore your backdoor, one super important, but often forgotten anal sex foreplay step is going to be talking about your boundaries. You’ll also want to circle back around to the conversation after you’ve explored anal play because you might discover something you like or didn’t like and adjust your boundaries or even create new ones.

Be Prepared

Sometimes when you’re having anal sex it can be messy. so it will benefit you to prepare your bed (or wherever you’re planning on playing) before you begin. Lay towels on the bed or use waterproof, easy-to-clean sheets, like the Exxxtreme Sheets, which are designed to keep your bed clean and you can easily wipe away any mess with a non-bleach-based household surface cleaner or dish detergent. . Lay out your toys, lube, and anything else you want to use during your playtime.

Lubrication

You’ll never go too slow, and you’ll never use too much lube when it comes to exploring the backdoor. lube is a must-have when it comes to all-ass-centered play. Yes, that means from foreplay to full-on anal penetration. Getting worked up, aroused, and ready for penetration (physically, mentally, and emotionally) creates more possibilities for pleasure and can help prevent pain or tearing, Lube is the tool that prevents pain or tearing. Silicone lubes are easiest for anal, as they stay on longer than water-based types. The problem is that silicone lube isn’t compatible with silicone sex toys. So a thicker water-based like Wicked Aqua Jelle will help last longer and put a nice cushion on toys or fingers.

Go Slow

You want to build to penetration slowly. To loosen up your muscles, making them more receptive to penetration, use your toy or fingers to gently massage the anus. Advance slowly. Gauge your partner’s reaction to everything you’re doing and listen to each other’s cues. Some easy techniques involve circling the anus both clockwise and counterclockwise, and stroking the anus both upwards and downwards with however many fingers feel best,

Massage!

Erotic massages are usually fun and sexy, but they can be even more helpful to help prepare for anal sex. An erotic massage is a good way to loosen up the receiver. With light squeezing and rubbing, work your way from the cheeks to right around the anus before you insert anything. Using the pads of your fingertips helps apply varying amounts of pressure without creating a poking sensation. Using the pads of your fingers and lots of lube, trace your partner’s butt crack, the outside of the anus, and the anal opening. Try lighter touch and firmer pressure to figure out which kinds of touch feel better on different parts of your partner’s butt.

Use Warm-Up Toys

Sex toys made specifically for anal play, like butt plugs and anal beads, are made to put pressure against the nerve endings in the rectum, provide you with a feeling of fullness, or help get you used to the sensation of penetration in the backdoor.  You can also wear a butt plug during other activities to help prepare the anal muscles for penetration. The most important thing to keep in mind is you need to use toys that are actually intended for anal play because there’s always a chance that your anal muscles could pull in the toy if they’re too small or don’t have a base.

You Need To Truly Relax

When you tense up, don’t even think about getting something in the backdoor in a pleasurable or easy way. You won’t be able to trick your body into relaxing. You have to actually put the work in to get yourself there. Spend a few minutes relaxing your mind and entire body before you try to explore anal sex. Get a massage. Practice deep breathing or whatever you know helps you feel relaxed.  Part of being relaxed is being comfortable and also being present. Try to remove all distractions because it’s hard to relax and if you’re distracted by your to-do list. The important part is to relax your anal muscles. If your anal sphincter is relaxed it’ll make insertion easier and more pleasurable. You can also try classic relaxation ideas like a warm bath with a bath bomb, or bubble bath, a body massage with a massage candle, or even having a few orgasms.

Be Inspired By Porn

Porn is fantasy material that usually doesn’t show the most accurate representations of anal sex, but it can serve as general inspiration. What porn is good for is that it can give you some ideas for different anal sex positions that you may not have considered before. Porn can also be a part of your foreplay. After all, it is a way to turn you on and get you amped up for the main anal play that’s to come.