Best Strap on Harnesses

Sometimes finding the best strap-on for you can feel like Cinderella’s glass slipper. A bit tricky to find one that’s the perfect fit, but when you do, it fits like a glove. Like any sex toy, how much you personally enjoy a strap-on will depend on your and your partner’s personal tastes. You want a harness that will fit comfortably and feel secure. Then you also have to select a dildo that looks good for the wearer and feels great for whoever is on the receiving end of the strap-on. Whether you’re new to strap-on sex or not, navigating the endless options between harnesses and dildos can be overwhelming.

When you’re buying a strap-on, you’re usually selecting two separate items: a harness and a dildo. You’ll often find starter kits that include both to simplify the buying process, which can be a simple and affordable starter option. Keep in mind, that when you pick a harness and a dildo separately that means you can pick and choose, the best fit for your personal preferences since there are several factors to consider for each.

If you’re shopping for a strap with a specific partner in mind, The top gets to select the harness since they’re wearing it, and the bottom picks the dildo size since they’re receiving it. some strap-on wearers may want a say in the look of the dildo they’re wearing to make sure they’re comfortable with it in terms of their gender expression, but the person receiving should have the final say in terms of size and texture since it is going to penetrate them.

Strap-On Kits

When you’re looking for a kit, you ideally want a harness that you’ll be able to use with other toys if and when you decide to expand your dildo collection. So getting a harness that has interchangeable O rings is an easy way to ensure you can use your new harness with other dildos as long as they have a flared base or suction cup. The VeDo Diki is a semi-realistic option that is rechargeable, vibrating, remote-controlled and can also be used as a suction cup toy. The harness includes an interchangeable O ring, so it can be used with many different options. The Strap On Double G Deluxe Vibrating Silicone Strap On comes with a place for a vibrating bullet for the wearer and has 2 dildos in the kit on the slimmer side for folks who prefer slimmer toys. If you’re looking for a kit that specifically targets the G/P spot then the Strap U Navigator Silicone G-Spot Dildo with Harness is the one for you. The ergonomic curve of the dildo will reach those hot spots with ease. Or showcase your pride with the Strap U Proud Rainbow Silicone Dildo with Harness. A rainbow toy that will also curve its way to your partners’ hot spots, with a bulbous head to really give a targeted massage to their G/P spot this set is sure to please.

What to look for in a Strap On Harness

Strap-on harnesses are usually available in three main styles. Jockstrap, thong, and underwear. Jockstraps look like a classic jockstrap, with straps around the waist and over each butt cheek. Thongs style a strap around the waist and a strap that goes between the legs and between the butt cheeks. Then Underwear looks like a pair of underwear or boxers. There are also other styles, like thigh, chin, or chest harnesses, etc. Most styles are adjustable in size. The jockstraps and thongs style typically come with adjustable straps and areusually available in one or two sizes so they can fit a variety of bodies. On the other hand, underwear harnesses are sized like actual underwear and aren’t adjustable. Adjustable harnesses might be a better choice if you plan on sharing your harness with a partner or are anticipating any fluctuations in weight.

Comfort is the Name of the Game

How comfortable and sturdy a harness feels to wear and use can either go hand in hand or distract from each other, depending on the quality and type of your harness. Two-strap styles tend to have much better stability than a single-strap thong, which makes it easier to control. Also, keep in mind with the Thong style, the thrusting might cause some rubbing, so jock styles tend to be more popular. Thicker straps like the Lush Harness tend to be more sturdy and comfortable because they don’t dig into the skin and are more supportive for heavier toys.

Comfort is more of a personal preference. Some people find strappy harnesses uncomfortable and some prefer ones that feel more like underwear. You’ll also meet other people that find underwear harnesses restrictive and less sturdy to use. Certain styles might also lead to chafing, depending on how they fit your specific body configuration. The best way to get used to it is simply by wearing it. Wear your harness around the house while you’re doing laundry or dishes, just to see how it feels on your body. Then add the dildo. You’re doing all of this before you ever use your strap-on for sex. Get used to the weight and movement just when you move around your home. Don’t be afraid to be a little silly and practice some thrusts too.

Practice makes perfect, right? So go on and practice putting your strap-on harness on and off and also practice thrusting with your abs instead of your hips. Then you can go into any situation feeling more confident the first time you use your strap-on for real, and skip any awkward moments like putting your foot through the wrong hole.