Lip Service. How To Eat Pussy

Eating pussy, muff diving, Cunnilingus, going down on someone, eating someone out. There are endless ways to talk about oral sex specifically on people with vulvas. But as the saying goes, a rose by any other name would smell as sweet and oral sex can mean lots of pleasure for people with vulvas. Cunnilingus puts the attention on clitoris stimulation, which can be seriously enjoyable. Sometimes even more than penetration for people.

So why don’t  many people know what the heck they’re doing when they go down there? Just think about how sex-ed is approached in America! It’s safe to assume you didn’t even hear the word clitoris in school. Then add the fact that the clit often gets ignored in popular mainstream penetration-focused pornography and it’s no surprised people are lost when they try to focus on the clit. So if you’re not sure how to eat pussy, it’s not your fault. How could you know how to do something you’ve likely never seen done properly before? Luckily, there are plenty of ways to improve your oral sex technique. From incorporating toys, to trying different positions, to using your tongue in unique ways. The information you need to up your game is available in below. These are the best oral sex tips for the next time you’re going down on your partner.

Tease your way there

Don’t underestimate how important and impactful taking the time to warm up your partners body can be.Teasing and foreplay are where the power of the orgasm comes from. A little teasing can increase the anticipation which will increase lubrication and arousal. You can set the mood by lighting a massage candle and even give a massage to help relax and romance your partner. Start with kisses on the neck or behind the ear, move down to their belly, inner thighs, and all around the vulva. Run your tongue around their nipples. You can even bring in a feather tickler to run all over their body and up and down the labia.You’ll want to start Lighter when you start giving oral. The clit is very sensitive, so be mindful of going too hard. Read your partners body language, if they’re pulling away you should ease up. If they’re pushing towards you, you’re doing great.

Tongue Sensation

Your tongue is a versatile tool that can change up sensation. Try using the wide flat part of your tongue first. This uses a larger surface area, which tends to feels better initially to most people. The idea is to warm up the entire vulva area before going for the clit. Then you can try a more pointy tip and see what your partner prefers. Lick it up, down, and all around, but remain focused on and aware of the pressure of your tongue. Start off lightly and gradually increase the pressure and speed if their body language and verbal cues say yes.

You can also try the Kivin Method. It claims to get people with vulvas to orgasm in a matter of minutes. Even if it’s not true it’lll be fun to try! It’s actually really simple: instead of coming at oral sex from in between your partner’s legs, approach it from the side and lick up and down.

Ask your partner

No seriously, ask them what they like. Not only is it great dirty talk, but also, everyone has different preferences. The only way to figure out your partners preferences is to ask them. It helps avoid doing something your partner knows they don’t enjoy. Someone might prefer more pressure or a certain tongue technique. They may prefer it slow, or hard, or in circles, or up and down. If you’re already doing a great job, asking how they like it helps lead to more open and honest sexual communication. Plus showing interest in what brings your partner pleasure is a huge turn-on. Since every person’s body is different, and people enjoy being stimulated in a variety of ways. And if they’re not sure what they enjoy, you can have fun touching them in different ways and having them to tell you what feels good. Or you can follow their instructions, which shows that you’re you’re actively listening and invested in their pleasure.

Add g-spot stimulation

Mouths are really great, but they don’t have to be the only tool in your kit. Sex toys are a great way to kick it up a notch on the whole experience. The G-spot is actually less of a “spot” and more of an “area.” It’s the area of the body that surrounds the urethral sponge to protect it during penetration. When stimulated, you’re actually stimulating the root of the clit, that you can’t see externally. If you’re looking for the G-spot, insert your fingers into the vagina and hook up towards the belly button, behind the pubic bone. Make a “come here” motion with the pads of your fingers or move the pads of your fingers in a circular motion. Try stimulating the clit your tongue while you insert a sex toy, if your partner enjoys penetration. Vibrators like the Dame Arc or Satisfyer Charming are curved to not only access the G-spot behind the pubic bone but are curved enough to be perfectly out of the way during playtime.

Add Other Sensations

You can also use a vibrator or sex toy to stimulate the sphinter and perineum while you use your mouth on the vulva. The backdoor itself is a very sensitive pleasurable area that you shouldn’t be ignored during oral. Talk to your partner first, and then if they’re on board go ahead and stimulate their ass while you eat their pussy. There’s also anal beads or a butt plug if you need your hands to play with other areas. There are a bunch of ways to play with their ass, penetration or not.

• Rub just the outside without penetration.
• Light, rhythmic pressure on the opening, without penetrating it.
• In & out penetration.
• Holding your finger inside their ass.

If you’ve never used a vibrator on someone before, ask them to show you how they like to use it on themselves. This is like a cheat sheet on how they like to be stimulated. Or any other sex toy can be incorporated, the only limit is your imagination! Nipple clamps, thrusters, dildos, finger vibes, etc, anything is fair game, just figure out what stimulation you’re looking to add.

Wetter is Better

I know your mouth is wet and vulvas are wet, but adding a water-based lube, especially a natural feeling one like Intimate Earth Hydra will keep everything feeling silky smooth and sliding like you want it to. No one will ever say it’s too wet.