Pegging 101 and Prostate Orgasms
Heard about pegging from pop culture and it piqued your interest? Maybe you caught the women’s day gag in Deadpool or saw that infamous Broad City episode where Abbi tries pegging her neighbor. If you didn’t see it or don’t know what it is don’t worry! Anal exploration can unlock new and exciting pleasure and orgasm opportunities. The backdoor is filled with feel-good nerve endings and is just a sensitive area that can bring people pleasure! The prostate in particular can provide powerful, full-body orgasms. Although anyone can enjoy backdoor stimulation! Anal exploration doesn’t have any specific sexuality tied to it, so people of all sexualities can enjoy exploring their butt. From straight men to queer non-binary people, everyone has a butt and it feels good to touch it. Especially when you’re a person with a prostate. The pleasure potential is even higher. For some folks, anal exploration speaks to our particular kinks. After all, you can’t have enjoyable and pleasurable anal sex without letting yourself be at least a little vulnerable That’s one of the many reasons many people will use anal sex as a special treat on birthdays or anniversaries, or explore it with only people special to them. Pegging in particular can be very vulnerable because of how society can react to people with prostates wanting to explore their ass on top of having to get used to a new sensation. What is pegging exactly? It’s a type of anal play where the prostate is stimulated by someone, usually with a strap-on harness and dildo.
What Is Pegging?
At its core pegging is simply strap-on sex, meaning it’s partner play where one person wears a strap-on harness and the other person gets penetrated. The term pegging came from the Savage Love sex advice column by Dan Savage and it specifies that it is specifically when someone with a strap-on harness penetrates someone anally. The difference between pegging and other kinds of anal stimulation is that the primary goal of pegging is to stimulate the prostate. The prostate is located approximately four inches inside the backdoor in people with penises. People who want to explore pegging or anal in general should explore solo with their fingers before bringing in a partner. This lets the receiver familiarize themself with the new sensations and the motions that feel the best. Warming your backdoor up is one of the most important steps to having pain-free pleasurable anal sex. Then you’ll get what you’re looking for, Prostate orgasms! They are said to feel similar to penis-focused orgasms but are usually much more intense and full-bodied. One thing to keep in mind is that not everyone will ejaculate from a prostate orgasm. However, you may release a milky fluid from the urethra. This is why it’s called “milking”. It creates prostatic fluid, or basically ejaculate without sperm.
Where is the Prostate?
The prostate lives between the bladder and the penis, just in front of the rectum. It’s about 2-3″ inches inside the butt of penis owners. The most direct way to find the prostate is to put your fingers directly into the anus. You can also stimulate it directly through the perineum (or taint) the skin that runs underneath the scrotum to the anus if you want to experiment with external stimulation before you head inside the body. When the receiver is turned on, the prostate gland will swell which makes it much easier to find. It almost feels like a walnut because of its size and texture.
Communication makes everything better
Talking about it with your partner is the first and most important step you should take when you figure out one or both of you is interested in pegging. It makes it easier to get a feel for your expectations and what you’re looking for before you go exploring on this sexual adventure. You never want to do anything that neither of you is comfortable with. Keep in mind that booty play doesn’t have to be penetration. If you’re interested in exploring anal but not quite ready to peg, you can explore butt plugs, beads, or even rimming!
What Do I need for Pegging?
Sex toys are extremely helpful in stimulating the prostate, especially when sex toys have different vibration settings, pressure, and depth.
To peg your partner, you’ll need to find a strap-on harness that is comfortable and well-fitted to you, a modestly sized dildo, and a water-based lubricant. An anal relaxer like Intimate Earth’s Daring is an optional addition for folks who need a little extra help, it helps relax the sphincter muscles and prepare them for entry.
Strap-on harnesses come in many styles. Couples who are interested in sharing a harness can opt for something adjustable like the Her Royal Harness Regal Queen, Latigo Leather Strap-On, or Lush Strap-On. Underwear style strap-on harnesses can be simple, sturdy, and affordable, like the Em Ex harnesses is great for anyone who is seeking more control over their thrusts. This particular underwear-style harness will keep your toys perky and ready to go. To keep penetration comfortable dildos that are smooth, and have a harnessable and anal-safe base are what you’re looking for. Like the Boundless Slim Probe, Temptasia Twist set of 3, Naughty USA Flower Power Dildo, Vixen Mistress, or the Colours Wave 6” dildo. For lubricants, you want to stick to compatible formulas like water-based and hybrids. Thicker gel formulas tend to last longer and put a nicer cushion on toys. Wicked Simply Aqua Jelle, Jo H2O Gel, and Slippery stuff are great options. If you want a little bit of silicone but not enough to ruin your toy, then hybrids are a great option like the Wicked Simply Hybrid Jelle.
Positions that work best for Pegging
Doggy style is a classic position that’s tried and true and folks get a lot of pleasure in it, so go ahead and give it a shot but don’t be afraid to try new ones too! Laying on your stomach is a great beginner pose. Move around, try new positions and angles, and enjoy the new sensation you’re exploring.
